CONSENSUAL SEX

 A news item is on rounds:consensual sex between minors who later married each other.

Boy was sent to jail.

Men are,aghast .Why only boy?

If its illegal,why not both?

Here is my response as I posted on Li.

"Agree brother.Jab miya bibi raazi the toh kaazi kyun aaya?

But criminal law in India does not work on consent.By same logic minors can also marry .

As for the fact why only boy is in jail,he is there for what in law is called "statutory rape".

Read this section of IPC ,last line specially:

Section 375 of the Indian Penal Code defines rape as "sexual intercourse with a woman against her will, without her consent, by coercion, misrepresentation or fraud or at a time when she has been intoxicated or duped, or is of unsound mental health and in any case if she is under 18 years of age."

Now lets shorten it to our context:

Section 375 of the Indian Penal Code defines rape as "sexual intercourse with a woman ....... if she is under 18 years of age."

Get it now?

Law is read and understood contextually like this.

Even if consensual ,it will be a rape technically.

"Men cant be raped" is a legal aphorism ,which in my view is bullshit.

In the U.S., laws to define consent and the age of consent are different in every state. The national average age there is 16.Below that its statutory rape.

Think of another Q:a major woman has consensual sex

.Later she says there was no consent.Case ban jayega.(cont'd)

Abhi minor ki baat chal rahi hai.

Ab ek naya concept aaya hai

MARITAL RAPE.

If a wife alleges ,her husband forced himself upon him,tab bhi 375,376,354 lagega,husband par.

So now situation is ,get a legal consent form prepared by a lawyer,both consenting adults should sign in front of notary,then get it registered in court ki kis din kis time kahan aap ye karne jaa rahe hain!

Tab thodi safety hogi.

😄😄😄😄"

This was on a light hearted note.

But on a serious one,ab aadmiyon ki toh lag gayi hai.Jo khata sadiyon pehle hui mardon se ,ab unka badla liya jaa raha hai...baar baar...

Read s 509 of IPC too."Word ,gesture or act intended to insult the modesty of a woman"...3 saal ki sazaa hai mere bhai.

And passage of time does not obliterate anything.#metoo dekhiye.10 saal baad bhi kisi ka irada bana toh allegation laga dega,case register ho jayega,badnaam ho jayenge,phir court chod bhi de duniya nahi chodegi.

There is a film of Akshaye Khanna :Section 375.See it.

So sab naariyon ko maa aur behen maniye ,pranaam kijiye ,ho sake toh charan sparsh(dur se,no touch),monogamy mein rahe,ho saket toh bachelor rahen,voh bhi dukh de to himalaya mein many caves are available on no rent.Water and fruits are on the house.No air conditioning required.Tap kijiye ki Prabhu,agle janam mein ladki paida karna.

☺️☺️☺️☺️

Khush raho dost.Netflix dekho.Saturday hai.

Badhiya khana order karo.

Kahan ye sab soch rahe ho!

RELATIONSHIPS

 There was a buzz on Linkedin about how relationships sustain you and how growing apart can bd overcome by maintaining journals and diaries.

These are teddy bear solutions belonging to M &B era.

What do you want to have and what are you willing to give up for it?
Thats the Q.

 
What i found is that there is constant tweaking ,mostly downscaling of career and passion aspirations in the name of family necessity.This ,mostly by women.
Men too downsize ambitions 

Issue is ,at the end of your life ,what do you want to be remembered as?

Not everyone who thrives has strong relationships as their base.Infact ,heartbreak has propelled many a great professional achievement.Kalidasa story is a big pointer.

Solitude can be a harbinger of TRUE greatness.

We often use self deception to not see cracks on the relationship wall.Sunk cost sustains self deception and the subterfuge is complete.None of the wounds heal completely.No injury is forgiven completely.Most of us carry on -hurt and broken.

Yet they may be Hermes and Aphrodite combos as an exception.But relationships are overhyped in their value in realising ones TRUE potential.I find "friends with benefits "a much more logical concept.

Indian relationships ,esp marriages are full of hypocricy and hurt amour propre.The reason they dont break is bec of external reasons-fear of being alone esp in old age,loneliness,children,social stigma associated with a divorce ,family disapproval,society hounds who find single and esp divorced women easy game,logistic factors etc.That is why we take the easier route of an extra marital relationship-thrill,excitement ,forbidden fruit syndrome and almost no consequence till you are discreet.Look at tinder,bumble etc.Look at massive office romances and serious physical flirting.Is this the relationship you are so proud of ,which leads you to seek comfort elsewhere?

But what about love completing you,one may ask?
In my view ,a TRUE love is not one who completes you.Its one who helps you complete yourself.
But you ,as a unit are complete.
Marry yourself first.Social one is secondary.
#marriage
#relationships
#life