Wednesday 25 January 2023

THE CRUISESHIP STORY

 

 

A great story I read somewhere and one that gave me a huge lesson of life.Source is not known but to me it was a life changer.Minor modifications and editing done by me.


A cruise ship met with an incident at sea, on the ship was a couple, after having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person left.

At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.

The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.

The teacher stopped and asked, "What do you think she shouted?"

Most of the students excitedly answered, "I hate you! I was blind!"

Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied, "Teacher, I believe she would have shouted - Take care of our child!"

The teacher was surprised, asking "Have you heard this story before?"

The boy shook his head, "Nope, but that was what my mum told my dad before she died to disease".

The teacher lamented, "The answer is right".

The cruise sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.

Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.

It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with a terminal illness.
At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.

He wrote in his diary, "How I wished to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone".

The story is finished, the class was silent.

The teacher knows that the student has understood the moral of the story, that of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.

Many of hose who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.


Many of those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they feel its being human.

Many of those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.
One day, all of us will get  separated  from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had. Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare... One day our children will have memories and ask 'Who are these people?' And we will smile with invisible tears  because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say: 'IT WAS THEM THAT I HAD THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE WITH'.

 

 Send this to all your friends and family that you will never forget. Thank you for making me smile for sometime in my life...


AUTHOR OF STORY:UNKNOWN

Thursday 19 January 2023

SPRINGBOARD THEORY

  

I read a great post on Linkedin by Dr.Dixit that conviction is more important than motivation as a precursor to human action.Also that motivation is external and conviction is internal.This motivated me to write my view thereon.

Have some tangential and radical view (in the end)as an ex psychology student.Purely my own.Not sourced from anywhere.

A preliminary point:We often do a lot of things without conviction or without motivation.All of us have .Isn't it?

Social media,political propoganda,religious predilections ,familial requirements manipulate both our convictions and motivations, creating narratives contra to facts, playing on our responsibilities,duties,prejudices,biases,fears and desires.

Motivation to me is not external.There are three distinct sources of motivation as I read; extrinsic (head), intrinsic (heart), and transcendent (soul).What we get from outside is stimuli:positive and negative: eg a pat on the back at work ,a new promotion avenue...

But whether the stimuli motivates us depends on how that stimuli interacts with the three source theory i mentioned....

As for CONVICTION...I have a grammar of psychology and philosophy I developed ...it is interplay of words with their grammatical dimension and how it impinges on your personality..a lesson I learnt from the film The Last Emperor(more on this if any reader wishes)

CONVICTION is a noun...not a verb...it creates the foundation...but not the action.

To me both are important.

But human action mostly results from:

1.Necessity(need for roti,kapda aur makaan,safety etc)

2.Compulsion(forced by someone/situation)

3.Imitation/social

These three also ,in my view are spring boards of action.

But the biggest,noblest and source of finest human action results from" Passion."Look at human history.Proof is splashed all over.It is a complete life code-it has conviction,it has motivation ,it is its own raison d' etre.It is your calling.

Example:Eklavya from Mahabharata is the epitome of passion.Denied by Dronacharya he learns on his own by creating statue of Guru Drona.So much that Drona has to ask for his thumb because he knew Eklavya was a greater archer than his favorite pupil Arjuna.

.Arjuna had the conviction.He had the talent.But Eklavya alone had the passion.And the genius.

He will always be my hero above Arjuna.(except the giving of his thumb).(Just as Karna would be my ultimate friend.)


So conviction creates.Motivation prepares.

But passion does.