For this post idea I need to be thankful to a young lady who I knew for a short time - exceptionally talented ,very intelligent ,pursuing law - she said while discussing the fate of love-a freewheeling exchange of thoughts-
'' I believe love is marriage''.Also marriage is an absolute inevitability for women specially.Love means nothing if marriage is not its culmination.
That to me is the biggest humbling experience the concept of love must have got- an absolute ego crash!
I did not disclose to her ,I have a blogpost on the same ,nor did I contest the proposition with her.I try not to fight with prejudices.Some lessons are best taught by life.
You are defined by what you stand in line for.
Here is a small uptake (not heavy).
If Hermes and Aphrodite married ,those who attended,do share a copy of the invite.
Marriage is a socio legal sanction for cohabitation.It is not a natural phenomenon.The proposition of the young lady is a conformity,safety and society driven warped myopic world view which is not just subservient but enslaving - an affront to human existence.
The siege of artificial social constructs on our collective psyche is complete.
But maximum jokes are on husbands ,wives and marriage- lesson somewhere.
No quarrel with marriage per se.It has dispensable utility value.Practical and convenient maybe.But its a different topic.
And love has nothing to do with it.There are loveless marriages and loves which never need the marriage prop.
What then is love?In itself an incomplete sentiment -[see https://lnkd.in/dnxBUXKV]
TRUE love is the real deal as I argue in that blog -do spare time and read it if you wish.So love is about-
T -Trust
R- Respect
U-Understanding
E- Empathy
But ,is this it?What about love?- In v brief.
Love is about
perception- mutual world view
vision- what is life all about
values- what we share
dreams- what we want to do
growth -what we want to be
companionship- can we both look at the same sunset for an hour ,enjoying the silence in togetherness?
desire and passion - no chemistry without physics
Love is about inspiring
Love is about enabling.
Love is about empowering.
Its about hand in hand.
Its about head on shoulder.
Its about laughing together.
Its about crying together.
Its about compelling irresistibility tugging at your heart.
It's about longing.
It's about belonging.
It is when you like yourself more when you are with him/her.
Its part of self actualizing: the ultimate purpose.
Its a tribute: to the real story of Hermes and Aphrodite so few know.
You can add on the theme.I can too.
Its this thought you have:'' I want the world to go on because you are in it.''
NOTE : RELATED:
AN URBAN TRAGEDY:
https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/1476539429754962786/873742419637630192
WHY MARRIAGES DON’T WORK.WON’T WORK
https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/1476539429754962786/1994538224839672003
RELATIONSHIPS:
https://www.blogger.com/blog/post/edit/1476539429754962786/845160434906713046
