TOMBOY LOGS(2)

The vitality of youth is always invigorating.Its liberating to know that there are women around who can have a free spirited healthy perception of  a (much)older guy's equally free spirited approach.The boulevard almost turned from one of broken dreams to one of unencumbered definition free freewheeling interaction.Who says a man and a woman can't be pals?

Of course the undercurrent always is the unanswerable:"
A MAN CANNOT BE FRIENDS WITH A WOMAN HE FINDS ATTRACTIVE".[ "WHEN HARRY MET SALLY".]

No such issues with the mystery lady though.The freewheeling exuberance and uninhibited discussion only pals can have.
BALMY EVENINGS ON A REAL BOULEVARD PUMPING AIR IN YOUR LUNGS MAKING FOUR KILOMETERS IN LESS THAN AN HOUR FILLED UP WITH DISCUSSIONS RANGING FROM WORK TO YOUNG AGE CRUSHES OF YOURS TRULY.The tomboy has a full throated sunshine laughter which lends huge meaning to insipid tales of the yore.The age gap ironically helps.Once you are free of gender attraction trappings what remains is a sublime underlining of gender appreciation.On such a bedrock discussions are a life saviour.
So folks-the issue remains -CAN A MAN BE FRIENDS WITH A WOMAN HE FINDS ATTRACTIVE?
AND MY TWO WICKED ADDITIONS-
1.CAN A WOMAN BE FRIENDS WITH A MAN SHE FINDS ATTRACTIVE?
2.TO BE FRIENDS WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX YOU MUST FIND HIM/HER UNATTRACTIVE!!
Reactions are actively solicited-don't do just the +1 button yaar someone did-and posted a comment that went into cyberspace)-there is a proper space and button to add comments.
SO-TILL THE NEXT BOULEVARD-AS SALLU BHAI SAYS ON BIGG BOSS-"DO WHAATEVVER YOUU WANTT TTO DDO MAANN!"
PS.A date with a long legged girl is the fantasy theme today-no mann its not the tomboy!.She is a buddy.But tomboy knows who!
cheers!

BOULEVARD...REDUX!.TOMBOY LOGS(1)

Talking to a pretty young lady walking on my own boulevard of sadness...reminded of the song lyrics sung by GREEN DAY.Here is what I remember of the lyrics(faux pas -regrets!).Here is to our mutual favourite,my tomboy friend!...

I walk a lonely road
The only one that I have ever known
Don't know where it goes
But it's home to me and I walk alone

I walk this empty street
On the Boulevard of Broken Dreams
Where the city sleeps
And I'm the only one and I walk alone

My shadow's the only one that walks beside me
My shallow heart's the only thing that's beating
Sometimes I wish someone up there will find me
'til then I walk alone

I'm walking down the line
That divides me somewhere in my mind
On the border line
Of the edge and where I walk alone

I walk a lonely road
The only one that I have ever known
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LITTLE TALKS ABOUT LIFE(1)

Many a time I keep on hearing "we too are keen on learning/knowing /becoming wise".But why is it that some of us are better than others?How is it that some people are so good at what they do?Well the answers can be multifarious.I will tell the story that is my life's inspiration:

THERE WAS A MAN WHO ONCE WENT TO A ZEN MASTER.HE SAID"I WANT KNOWLEDGE".

THE MASTER ASKED"HOW BADLY DO YOU WANT IT?"

THE MAN REPLIED"I MUST".

THENCE THE MASTER TOOK HIM TO A BUCKET FUL OF WATER.HE ASKED THE MAN TO BEND AND LOOK AT IT.

AS THE MAN BENT ,THE MASTER TOOK HIM BY THE NECK AND RAMMED HIM NECK UPWARDS RIGHT INSIDE THE BUCKET.

THE MAN NATURALLY STRUGGLED AND GASPED FOR BREATH.

THE MASTER RELEASED HIM.HE CAME UP COUGHING AND PANTING ALL DRENCHED.

THE MASTER ASKED HIM:"WHEN YOU WERE INSIDE THE WATER WHAT DID YOU WANT MOST?"

THE SHAKEN UP GUY WHISPERED:"AIR.I WANTED AIR.I WAS DESPERATE FOR AIR."

THE MASTER SMILED.

HE SAID:"WHEN YOU ARE AS DESPERATE FOR KNOWLEDGE AS YOU WERE FOR AIR INSIDE WATER,YOU SHALL HAVE IT".
 

ON LOVE(1)

Love has to be mad,passionate and extraordinary.There are too many ordinary things in life.Love shouldn't be one of them.
These lines in somewhat similar form were read by me somewhere.Did not remember the exact wordings so took creative liberty to rephrase as I would like the thought to be.
Love has to be associated with a face seeing which you would want to dream.

IS "SEXY"SEXIST?

Much flak has been drawn on the comment by NCW chairperson's that "sexy"is is not a negative label.She said that boys calling girls sexy only means beautiful and charming.We should not see it in a negative sense.She later clarified that remarks were in a broader context and does not imply that strangers or roadside Romeos  using that word to tease girls is condonable.
But the damage was done and got all armchair moralists and holier than thou approach takers were up in arms.
So folks-the lesser mortals who nature bestowed with a sense to deliberate and reflect(yes-lesser I said-intelligence is a liability in social context esp.in this country).-give this a thought.Is"sexy" a sexually coloured remark?Is it denigrating of womanhood by endorsement of male chauvinistic typecasting of women?Sexual objectification of women by raging hormones and uncontrollable libidos in irresistible pursuit of masculine gratification?
By the same token when a man is labeled a "stud"or "virile"is it not sexist meant to denigrate the male gender?.OF COURSE NOT,the chorus would go.
BUT WHY NOT?WHY IS A WOMAN BEING LABELED SEXY AN ADVERSE REFLECTION ON HER CHARACTER AND A COMMODIFICATION OF HER PERSONA  WHEREAS A STUD IS CONSIDERED A COMPLIMENT?
The answer unfortunately is in man being the physically dominant gender-some would call him socially dominant too-but sir-not me-no way-not in the present socio-legal context.So a man is less likely to be a victim of sexual subjugation.The answer ,more than anything is a reflection of the oldest and cancerous social malaise of our times:GENDER STEREOTYPING.No wonder we are all up in arms-its all right if men bathe in their virility and sexual labeling.But a woman-no way.We cannot condone a woman who chooses to wear her sexuality without shame.A man can be so,but a woman has to be ostracized for her sexual audacity.No wonder Indian men's bedrooms are the biggest subjugation locations no one is concerned about and repressed female sexualities take the form of  a sophisticated version of Savita bhabhi.Ha!men would want a mini skirt wearing girl for a girlfriend but a nine yarder sari wearer in the home,secretly coveting for a whore in bed but a savitri maa before all society.HOW MUCH HYPOCRITICAL CAN A SOCIETY GET?.And wonder of wonders women tend to ostracize their own more than men do.Sometimes I wonder whether KAMA SUTRA was actually written by some Victor Adams or whether the Khajuraho wallwork is due to some FOREIGN HAND or a British conspiracy or whether Queen Victoria(famously attributed for the phrase Victorian morality-prudish and hardcore conservatism laced with worst denial of normal human urges known to mankind)was actually Indian!!
No wonder women are enjoined to be ashamed of their sexuality and physical urges and to conceal them lest it wake the "animal"inside men and they become 'deserving'victims of men's lust.!Else we are confronted with the frightening prospect of sexually proud women in a society where sexy becomes a genuinely gender neutral word connoting only the best of what are basic human urges.
Come on guys-time we grew up as human beings.Development is not about a galloping GDP only-ITS ALSO ABOUT FAIR PLAY.ITS ALSO ABOUT PERCEPTUAL EQUALIZATION.

SO Protesters-WHY THIS KOLAVERI DI?

ARE WE NOT CASTRATING MORALITY IN THE NAME OF PRESERVING IT?

P.S.By the way-sensex can be sexy too!!And also money-maybe sexier than women!Think about it!!

ZINDAGI NE KYA DIKHAAYA

चाहते थे जिन्हें उनके दिल बदल गए

समंदर तो वही थे पर साहिल बदल गए

क़त्ल ऐसा हुआ किश्तों में मेरा

कभी बदले खंजर तो कभी कातिल बदल गए

ultimate statement on relationships

‎"FATE DECIDES WHO WALKS INTO YOUR LIFE.YOU DECIDE WHO TO LET STAY,WHO TO LET GO-AND WHO TO REFUSE TO LET WALK AWAY".In your choices lies your happiness.