Much flak has been drawn on the comment by NCW chairperson's that "sexy"is is not a negative label.She said that boys calling girls sexy only means beautiful and charming.We should not see it in a negative sense.She later clarified that remarks were in a broader context and does not imply that strangers or roadside Romeos using that word to tease girls is condonable.
But the damage was done and got all armchair moralists and holier than thou approach takers were up in arms.
So folks-the lesser mortals who nature bestowed with a sense to deliberate and reflect(yes-lesser I said-intelligence is a liability in social context esp.in this country).-give this a thought.Is"sexy" a sexually coloured remark?Is it denigrating of womanhood by endorsement of male chauvinistic typecasting of women?Sexual objectification of women by raging hormones and uncontrollable libidos in irresistible pursuit of masculine gratification?
By the same token when a man is labeled a "stud"or "virile"is it not sexist meant to denigrate the male gender?.OF COURSE NOT,the chorus would go.
BUT WHY NOT?WHY IS A WOMAN BEING LABELED SEXY AN ADVERSE REFLECTION ON HER CHARACTER AND A COMMODIFICATION OF HER PERSONA WHEREAS A STUD IS CONSIDERED A COMPLIMENT?
The answer unfortunately is in man being the physically dominant gender-some would call him socially dominant too-but sir-not me-no way-not in the present socio-legal context.So a man is less likely to be a victim of sexual subjugation.The answer ,more than anything is a reflection of the oldest and cancerous social malaise of our times:GENDER STEREOTYPING.No wonder we are all up in arms-its all right if men bathe in their virility and sexual labeling.But a woman-no way.We cannot condone a woman who chooses to wear her sexuality without shame.A man can be so,but a woman has to be ostracized for her sexual audacity.No wonder Indian men's bedrooms are the biggest subjugation locations no one is concerned about and repressed female sexualities take the form of a sophisticated version of Savita bhabhi.Ha!men would want a mini skirt wearing girl for a girlfriend but a nine yarder sari wearer in the home,secretly coveting for a whore in bed but a savitri maa before all society.HOW MUCH HYPOCRITICAL CAN A SOCIETY GET?.And wonder of wonders women tend to ostracize their own more than men do.Sometimes I wonder whether KAMA SUTRA was actually written by some Victor Adams or whether the Khajuraho wallwork is due to some FOREIGN HAND or a British conspiracy or whether Queen Victoria(famously attributed for the phrase Victorian morality-prudish and hardcore conservatism laced with worst denial of normal human urges known to mankind)was actually Indian!!
No wonder women are enjoined to be ashamed of their sexuality and physical urges and to conceal them lest it wake the "animal"inside men and they become 'deserving'victims of men's lust.!Else we are confronted with the frightening prospect of sexually proud women in a society where sexy becomes a genuinely gender neutral word connoting only the best of what are basic human urges.
Come on guys-time we grew up as human beings.Development is not about a galloping GDP only-ITS ALSO ABOUT FAIR PLAY.ITS ALSO ABOUT PERCEPTUAL EQUALIZATION.
SO Protesters-WHY THIS KOLAVERI DI?
ARE WE NOT CASTRATING MORALITY IN THE NAME OF PRESERVING IT?
P.S.By the way-sensex can be sexy too!!And also money-maybe sexier than women!Think about it!!
But the damage was done and got all armchair moralists and holier than thou approach takers were up in arms.
So folks-the lesser mortals who nature bestowed with a sense to deliberate and reflect(yes-lesser I said-intelligence is a liability in social context esp.in this country).-give this a thought.Is"sexy" a sexually coloured remark?Is it denigrating of womanhood by endorsement of male chauvinistic typecasting of women?Sexual objectification of women by raging hormones and uncontrollable libidos in irresistible pursuit of masculine gratification?
By the same token when a man is labeled a "stud"or "virile"is it not sexist meant to denigrate the male gender?.OF COURSE NOT,the chorus would go.
BUT WHY NOT?WHY IS A WOMAN BEING LABELED SEXY AN ADVERSE REFLECTION ON HER CHARACTER AND A COMMODIFICATION OF HER PERSONA WHEREAS A STUD IS CONSIDERED A COMPLIMENT?
The answer unfortunately is in man being the physically dominant gender-some would call him socially dominant too-but sir-not me-no way-not in the present socio-legal context.So a man is less likely to be a victim of sexual subjugation.The answer ,more than anything is a reflection of the oldest and cancerous social malaise of our times:GENDER STEREOTYPING.No wonder we are all up in arms-its all right if men bathe in their virility and sexual labeling.But a woman-no way.We cannot condone a woman who chooses to wear her sexuality without shame.A man can be so,but a woman has to be ostracized for her sexual audacity.No wonder Indian men's bedrooms are the biggest subjugation locations no one is concerned about and repressed female sexualities take the form of a sophisticated version of Savita bhabhi.Ha!men would want a mini skirt wearing girl for a girlfriend but a nine yarder sari wearer in the home,secretly coveting for a whore in bed but a savitri maa before all society.HOW MUCH HYPOCRITICAL CAN A SOCIETY GET?.And wonder of wonders women tend to ostracize their own more than men do.Sometimes I wonder whether KAMA SUTRA was actually written by some Victor Adams or whether the Khajuraho wallwork is due to some FOREIGN HAND or a British conspiracy or whether Queen Victoria(famously attributed for the phrase Victorian morality-prudish and hardcore conservatism laced with worst denial of normal human urges known to mankind)was actually Indian!!
No wonder women are enjoined to be ashamed of their sexuality and physical urges and to conceal them lest it wake the "animal"inside men and they become 'deserving'victims of men's lust.!Else we are confronted with the frightening prospect of sexually proud women in a society where sexy becomes a genuinely gender neutral word connoting only the best of what are basic human urges.
Come on guys-time we grew up as human beings.Development is not about a galloping GDP only-ITS ALSO ABOUT FAIR PLAY.ITS ALSO ABOUT PERCEPTUAL EQUALIZATION.
SO Protesters-WHY THIS KOLAVERI DI?
ARE WE NOT CASTRATING MORALITY IN THE NAME OF PRESERVING IT?
P.S.By the way-sensex can be sexy too!!And also money-maybe sexier than women!Think about it!!
