#LIFE HAPPENS

               

Many a time we say ‘Oh if only I knew it before……’.It is probably the most common lamented hindsight ever.These often turn into  lifetime regrets.

All of us can draw a list of such things-from newspaper and magazine articles,TV shows,own personal experiences etc.Some would be specific to your life situation.But many would be general in nature.Here is one such incomplete list culled from lots of personal experiences and also from wise written words I came across which are gratefully acknowledged.

1.Dignity and self respect are non negotiable.

2.I have to stand up and speak for myself.

3.The world owes me nothing.It was here first.

4.To have meaning in life I must have a purpose in life.

5.Self discipline need not be self enslavement.

6.Have perspective.And vision.

7.Love is important.But not indispensable.

7A.Choosing between love and friendship is easy.Friendship wins.

7B.Your life story is not covered under Official Secrets Act.If you TRUST and RESPECT someone…share what is bothering you.He will UNDERSTAND.A good shoulder is not such a bad thing.Cry on it.

7C. Open yourself to hurt.love and hurt take the same entry door.There is no other way to love.

7D. ‘One great love’ is for books.Love can happen-twice .

7E. Age doesn’t matter-unless you are cheese.But age difference often comes with perception variations.

7F.Be sure you are in love for the right reasons .

8.One genuine friend and one genuine mentor…you will be on your way.

9.Tommorow comes with no baggage.Baggage makes for bad mornings.

10.EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD IS NOT ABOUT YOU.

11.Every argument need not be won.Mules are not to be argued with.

12.Try not to reply when you are angry.

13.Never promise when you are happy.Gestures are a burden in the long run.

14.Changing your mind is not a punishable offence.It indicates maturity.Unless done every hour!

15.Get rid of two biggest digital vices-FOMO(fear of missing out)and FOBO(fear of better option).

16.You can survive and quite well even if you don’t check facebook and whatsapp 20 times an hour.

17.Distraction is worse than depression.Creates anxiety and ultimately an average outcome of task at hand.

18.If you can’t solve it,sleep over it.

19.Gut instinct-respect it.

20.Inertia kills initiative.

21.Question your methods.And your life premises.Specially if you are unhappy.

21A.Self deception is not a good medicine.Likewise for bitterness and regret.

22.Wisdom like wine is best when aged.Hear voices of experience.

22A. Listening is not a crime! Ask.Understand.Adopt.Act.

23.If you choose to forgive make sure its known as YOUR CHOICE to the forgiven. Let your kindness not be treated as a weakness.

24.Make a difference,create a smile.Lots of people need help.

25.Try to make your passion your source of livelihood.If not,try to find passion in work.It will be start of a lifelong romance.

25A. Persistence and Perseverance …they are vehicles of passion.

26.’Me time’ is indispensable.Listen to some music…or just the sounds of silence.Staring at night sky,stars and all ,works best.And its free!

26A. Travel.See the world.It often gives life changing prescriptions.

27.Others are too busy to think about you.People won’t say anything.They don’t have time for it.

28.People get treated the way they treat themselves.

29.Love at least once.It makes you very nice.When its over don’t regret because its over.Smile because it happened.

30.Everything except values and principles has a shelf life.Character and integrity dignify you.They are the defining attributes.

31.Never have a joint bank account.Share money.Not the account number.

32.Make enough money to indulge yourself without enduring guilt.

33.Look in the mirror –do you like what you see?Change yourself if you don’t .Sometimes,change the mirror!!

34.Health is not the first wealth.Its the only one.

Stopping here.Not because the list has run out.It never will.Life happens-everyday.

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