JUDGE

 

UNIVERSAL ADVICE:DONT JUDGE IN A RELATIONSHIP IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY.

Sorry.

Dont agree.

My prescription would be:

"Judge.But dont be judgmental."

This is not just semantics.Its a huge interaction health tool.

Judgmental: "tending to form opinions too quickly, esp. when disapproving of someone or something"

Judge(Merriam Webster):

transitive verb

1: to form an opinion about through careful weighing of evidence and testing of premises

2: to form an estimate or evaluation of

3:to determine or pronounce after inquiry and deliberation

This malice of " judge not that ye be judged"of biblical origins we need to get rid of.

Judge and be prepared to be judged.

Just..don't be judgmental.

there is no choice between judging and not judging.Judging is inescapable.To say :dont judge"is also a judgement.

In fact its worse.It is an arbitrary prescription of a proscription.Just like a despotic commandment.

its judgmental.

My view.

p.s.Ayn Rand"Atlas Shrugged"

Buy it.Read it.

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