Respect and Remember

Interacting with a comrade I got reminded of an old poem of my childhood days.And a  dialogue from Bachchan sir's Baghbaan"log aksar mohabbat karte hain.Lekin jitni baar usko kehna chahiye ,kehte nahi"
Ditto with all valuable relationships we have.If you value someone's concern,love,friendship...Show it..You are lucky ..Because there are many who don't have any.Here is the poem.

AROUND THE CORNER
Charles Hanson Towne

Around the corner I have a friend,
In this great city that has no end;

Yet the days go by and weeks rush on,
And before I know it, a year is gone,

And I see my old friend's face,
For life is a swift and terrible race.

He knows I like him just as well
As in the days when I rang his bell.
And he rang mine.

We were younger then,
And now we are busy, tired men;
Tired with playing a foolish game,
Tired with trying to make a name.

"Tomorrow," I say, "I will call on Jim
Just to show that I'm thinking of him."

But tomorrow comes–and tomorrow goes,
And the distance between us grows and grows.

Around the corner!–yet miles away…
"Here's a telegram sir, Jim died today."

And that's what we get, and deserve in the end.
Around the corner, a vanished friend.

WORK CULTURE TODAY

WHAT AILS OUR WORK CULTURE TODAY?

We claim we are constantly moving.But we are not reaching anywhere.The bureaucracy is the villain in chief.The private sector,not far behind.What ails our services we render to our organizations?The delivery mechanism,we say is constantly working..But we are being micromanaged which kills initiative.Target management is all we do.
Bureaucracy admittedly takes the cake here.
Still we all say we are doing our jobs.
We are doing our jobs.
Do you know the difference between DOING YOUR JOB and DOING YOUR DUTY?
Your job IS DOING WHAT IS REQUIRED.
Your duty IS DOING WHAT IS RIGHT.
Don't let the naysayers get to you by saying that this is anti discipline and may work counter to organizational objectives.It won't .This is not a prescription to anarchy.I will illustrate.On 21st august 1989 I entered the hallowed precincts of National Academy Of Direct Taxes at Nagpur as a young 24 year old entering the mighty IRS.I was told that officers are required to SIGN a oath and take it as a pledge .That was to be our beacon for the rest of our careers.
You know what it was?
It was an OATH OF ALLEGIANCE TO THE COUNTRY and to the CONSTITUTION OF INDIA.Yes.
I never forgot that.That was MY DUTY.Paid the price for remembering it.But I managed.
So,till we stop doing our jobs and start doing our duty ....Better still...Let your duty become your job.

Respecting yourself

I read somewhere something about love and self respect.We often humiliate ourselves in relationships specially in trying to prepare ourselves for the so called"right time" or "right moment" to say that’s it.
Save yourself because it isn't coming.There is no perfect time to decide to start respecting yourself.This is my view.
Now here is what I read:
"If love becomes too painful, then it’s time to let that love go and save yourself. You have to keep this in mind because you’ll be able to find another love but not another self."
"When a door closes, knock on it a few times. But if it still doesn’t open, let it stay closed. In career, in love, in LIFE – when you see the period at the end of the sentence, don’t try and turn it into a comma. Know when something is over and move on."
Combine my thought with this.Many of you may yet save yourselves...Before saving yourself becomes irrelevant.

DEFINED

A thought to think over:
Do not expect your life to be a never ending pool party....It won't be.We Indians are masters at self deception and procrastination is our weapon of choice.
It does not hurt to occasionally confront oneself and take a good hard look at the mirror without blinking.
Don't say you have time or that when your time comes then...Your time will never come.The secret is to become wise before you get old.
My father often asked me about background of my friends.It angered me a lot because I thought what my friend's father does is not why I should be his friend.I was wrong.It was part of contour of my choice.Choosing to be his friend was my choice.And
WE ARE DEFINED BY OUR CHOICES.
SO friends.Control your destiny.We always have options.Always.
LET YOUR CHARACTER DRIVE YOUR STORY.

हम बड़े हो गए।

हम बड़े हो गए।
हम बड़े हो गए।
मुस्कुराहट,तबस्सुम, हंसी, कहकहे
सब खो गए।
हम बड़े हो गए।
ज़िम्मेदारी मुसलसल निभाते रहे।
बोझ औरों का खुद ही उठाते रहे।
अपना दुख सोचकर रोये तन्हाई में।
महफिलों में मगर मुस्कुराते रहे।
कितने लोगों से अब मुख्तलिफ हो गए।
हम बड़े हो गए।
और कितनी मसाफत है बाकी अभी।
ज़िन्दगी की हरारत है बाकी अभी।
वो जो हमसे बड़े हैं सलामत रहें।
उन सभी की ज़रूरत है बाकी अभी।
जो थपक कर सुलाते थे,खुद सो गए।
हम बड़े हो गए।
जाने कब आयी,कब जवानी हुई।
खत्म होने को अब ज़िन्दगानी हुई
जो हक़ीक़त थी अब वो कहानी हुई।
मंज़िलें मिल गयीं हमसफर खो गए।
देखते देखते क्या से क्या हो गए।
हम बड़े हो गए।

Post script
-मत पूछना दोस्तों यह अशआर किसके हैं।
जो महसूस कर सके ये ख्यालात उसके हैं

LIFE THOUGHTS TO LIVE BY

Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact.

William James

Nurture your mind with great thoughts. To believe in the heroic makes heroes.

Benjamin Disraeli

Defeat is not bitter unless you swallow it.

Joe Clark

Every scar has a story. Don't be afraid to tell it.

Anonymous

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.

Martin Luther King

It won't be easy, but it'll be worth it.

Anonymous

- If today was perfect, there would be no need for tomorrow.

Anonymous

The only limit to our realisation of tomorrow will be our doubts of today.

Franklin D. Roosevelt

The future belongs to the competent. Get good, get better, be the best.

Brian Tracy

Follow your dreams. They know the way.

Anonymous

Be so good they can't ignore you.

Steve Martin

If you don't like where you are, move. You are not a tree.

Jim Rohn

Work until your idols become your rivals.

Drake

Practice like you've never won. Perform like you’ve never lost.

Anonymous

A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor.

Anonymous

Happiness is an inside job.

William Arthur Ward

- If you’re good at something, never do it for free.

Joker

- Don’t stress. Do your best. Forget the rest.

Anonymous

I dwell in possibility.

Emily Dickinson

Don't wait for opportunity. Create it.

Anonymous

Hold the vision. Trust the process.

Anonymous

Work until you no longer have to introduce yourself.

Anonymous

I love the smell of possibility in the morning.

10 THINGS THAT REQUIRE ZERO TALENT

How often do we equate success with talent? All the time. But the reality is, success isn’t created by talent alone. Just like we might see immense talent squandered, we also see underdogs unexpectedly overachieve. Here are 10 behaviors that we can always control that require zero talent yet have a huge impact on our success.

1. Being on time. Punctuality is a keystone habit that requires organization and planning ahead—both of which lead to greater success. Here’s a good primer on why being on time is important and how anyone can make it a habit.

2. Work ethic. This is the discipline of showing up consistently and making the best decisions that lead to peak performance. Even at the pinnacle of his career, basketball superstar Kobe Bryant’s work ethic was legendary. Kevin Durant recalls the message a veteran Kobe sent the younger players at Olympic Trials back in 2008, just after Durant’s first year in the league. The players were given a day off, but there was Kobe, the only veteran getting on the bus to go work out at a high school gym. “He made 50 shots at each spot around the 3-point line,” Durant recalls. “We just looked down there and said, man, he’s the best player in the league and he took a bus to a high school to get some work in. It’s that work ethic that Kobe embraced throughout his career to become one of the all-time greats. As Kobe said after getting drafted straight out of high school in 1996, “I don’t want (fans) to think I’m just a high school kid coming in here thinking the world owes me something. I’m going to go out there and I’m going to work.”

3. Effort. Few athletes worked as hard as major league pitcher John Smoltz, who is now in the Baseball Hall of Fame. As his agent, I saw him extend his career by years through sheer effort and commitment. He made up his mind to make changes along the way, like going from starter to closer, that kept him in the game as a valuable contributor to his team. Effort is a mindset as much as it is a behavior.

4. Body language. How you move and express yourself around others shapes who you are and how you are perceived. Anyone can improve, and here’s a TED talk that explains why and how.

5. Energy. Everyone has energy to devote to a goal, and the decision of how much to give. Be conscious about where yours goes.

6. Attitude. It’s up to you to keep going. No one else can decide that. A great attitude maximizes the talent that you do have and offsets what you lack.

7. Passion. Perhaps the single most important way each one of us can suffocate the fear that keeps us from peak performance.

8. Being coachable. Anyone can become a better listener, learn from feedback, and embrace the success of others.

9. Doing extra. Go the extra mile. I saw it all the time with the athletes I worked with. The ones who sustained their success were the ones who consistently worked at their craft beyond what was required. That extra work and preparation fosters confidence. We can all learn from this approach and exceed our own expectations.

10. Being prepared. Only you can give yourself the time and space to be as ready as you can be. Make it a habit, and you will make the most of your talent. There is great truth in the saying: Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.

Your Game Changer Takeaway

Remember that talent is never enough. The best of the best don’t rest on what they were born with—they dig down to get the most they can. Try these 10 things (or just one!) and over time it will pay off.

Molly Fletcher