THE EAGLE FLIES ALONE

Being alone has a power that very few people can handle.

- STEVEN AITCHISON

Do not confuse being alone with loneliness.The former is largely a physical situation and the latter is purely psychological.

Being alone is SOLITUDE.Which is bliss for creators ,performers and achievers.Greatest works are done being alone.Embrace solitude.Its way better than being with the undeserving.And way more rewarding.

There will be times of yearning when just talking to someone would be a compelling desire.Dont give in.You are an option to them.Till you become their choice,let go.

The eagle flies alone.

" When I was born the seed was sown

I will not obey, my life is my own

Battle rows, which do enslave me

Exposed lies that enrage me

I don't believe in heaven, I don't believe in hell

Never joined the herd, could not adjust well

Slave and master, it's not for me

I choose my own path, set myself free

I, I go my own way

I swim against the stream

Forever I will fight the powers that be

I, I go my own way

I swim against the stream

Forever I will fight the pοwers that be

The eagle flies alone

Reject the system that dictates the norm

This world is full of lies and deceit

I ask my own betrayal, cut so deep

Suffered defeat only to rise again

I, I go my own way

I swim against the stream

Forever I will fight the powers that be

I, I go my own way

I swim against the stream

Forever I will fight the powers that be

The eagle flies alone

Alone!

I, I go my own way

I swim against the stream

Forever I will fight the powers that be

I, I go my own way

I swim against the stream

Forever I will fight the powers that be

The eagle flies alone"

Songwriter: Michael Amott

THE CRUISESHIP STORY

 

 

A great story I read somewhere and one that gave me a huge lesson of life.Source is not known but to me it was a life changer.Minor modifications and editing done by me.

A cruise ship met with an incident at sea, on the ship was a couple, after having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person left.

At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.

The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.

The teacher stopped and asked, "What do you think she shouted?"

Most of the students excitedly answered, "I hate you! I was blind!"

Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied, "Teacher, I believe she would have shouted - Take care of our child!"

The teacher was surprised, asking "Have you heard this story before?"

The boy shook his head, "Nope, but that was what my mum told my dad before she died to disease".

The teacher lamented, "The answer is right".

The cruise sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.

Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.

It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with a terminal illness.
At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.

He wrote in his diary, "How I wished to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone".

The story is finished, the class was silent.

The teacher knows that the student has understood the moral of the story, that of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.

Many of hose who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.


Many of those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they feel its being human.

Many of those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.
One day, all of us will get  separated  from each other; we will miss our conversations of everything & nothing; the dreams that we had. Days will pass by, months, years, until this contact becomes rare... One day our children will have memories and ask 'Who are these people?' And we will smile with invisible tears  because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say: 'IT WAS THEM THAT I HAD THE BEST DAYS OF MY LIFE WITH'.

 

 Send this to all your friends and family that you will never forget. Thank you for making me smile for sometime in my life...

AUTHOR OF STORY:UNKNOWN

SPRINGBOARD THEORY

  

I read a great post on Linkedin by Dr.Dixit that conviction is more important than motivation as a precursor to human action.Also that motivation is external and conviction is internal.This motivated me to write my view thereon.

Have some tangential and radical view (in the end)as an ex psychology student.Purely my own.Not sourced from anywhere.

A preliminary point:We often do a lot of things without conviction or without motivation.All of us have .Isn't it?

Social media,political propoganda,religious predilections ,familial requirements manipulate both our convictions and motivations, creating narratives contra to facts, playing on our responsibilities,duties,prejudices,biases,fears and desires.

Motivation to me is not external.There are three distinct sources of motivation as I read; extrinsic (head), intrinsic (heart), and transcendent (soul).What we get from outside is stimuli:positive and negative: eg a pat on the back at work ,a new promotion avenue...

But whether the stimuli motivates us depends on how that stimuli interacts with the three source theory i mentioned....

As for CONVICTION...I have a grammar of psychology and philosophy I developed ...it is interplay of words with their grammatical dimension and how it impinges on your personality..a lesson I learnt from the film The Last Emperor(more on this if any reader wishes)

CONVICTION is a noun...not a verb...it creates the foundation...but not the action.

To me both are important.

But human action mostly results from:

1.Necessity(need for roti,kapda aur makaan,safety etc)

2.Compulsion(forced by someone/situation)

3.Imitation/social

These three also ,in my view are spring boards of action.

But the biggest,noblest and source of finest human action results from" Passion."Look at human history.Proof is splashed all over.It is a complete life code-it has conviction,it has motivation ,it is its own raison d' etre.It is your calling.

Example:Eklavya from Mahabharata is the epitome of passion.Denied by Dronacharya he learns on his own by creating statue of Guru Drona.So much that Drona has to ask for his thumb because he knew Eklavya was a greater archer than his favorite pupil Arjuna.

.Arjuna had the conviction.He had the talent.But Eklavya alone had the passion.And the genius.

He will always be my hero above Arjuna.(except the giving of his thumb).(Just as Karna would be my ultimate friend.)

So conviction creates.Motivation prepares.

But passion does.

JUDGE

 

UNIVERSAL ADVICE:DONT JUDGE IN A RELATIONSHIP IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY.

Sorry.

Dont agree.

My prescription would be:

"Judge.But dont be judgmental."

This is not just semantics.Its a huge interaction health tool.

Judgmental: "tending to form opinions too quickly, esp. when disapproving of someone or something"

Judge(Merriam Webster):

transitive verb

1: to form an opinion about through careful weighing of evidence and testing of premises

2: to form an estimate or evaluation of

3:to determine or pronounce after inquiry and deliberation

This malice of " judge not that ye be judged"of biblical origins we need to get rid of.

Judge and be prepared to be judged.

Just..don't be judgmental.

there is no choice between judging and not judging.Judging is inescapable.To say :dont judge"is also a judgement.

In fact its worse.It is an arbitrary prescription of a proscription.Just like a despotic commandment.

its judgmental.

My view.

p.s.Ayn Rand"Atlas Shrugged"

Buy it.Read it.

You might yet be saved.

Pursue your dreams

 

                            

A great story I read somewhere.

 

A Rabbit entered a shop and asked: "Do you have carrots?".

Owner says "no we don't have."

 

The next day the rabbit comes to the shop and asks again “do you have carrots?" Owner replies angrily, "I said we don't have carrots.

 

The following day the rabbit comes to the shop and asks again, "Do you have carrots?"

Shopkeeper says angrily, "I said we don't have carrots, if you come back again asking, I am gonna screw a nail in your head with a hammer!"

 

 The next day the rabbit comes yet again and asks this time , "Do you have a hammer?" Shopkeeper replies, "NO."

 

Rabbit asks again "What about nails?" Owner says  "NO."

 

Then the rabbit calmly asks, "Do you have carrots?"

 

Moral of the story:

Don't let the devil scare you, he doesn't have anything.

Just pursue your dreams.

RESILIENCE

 

Resilience in fact is THE CHARACTERITIC/attribute to have in all aspects of life.

Often TOLERANCE is confused with resilience.

We are good tolerators.Resilience is ability to WITHSTAND and COUNTER.Tolerance is ABILITY TO ACCEPT.

Resilience is a very very rare quality and is found equally rarely.

It is toughness.

In physics resilience is defined as"the power or ability of a material to return to its original form, position, etc., after being bent, compressed  ;elasticity."     

 Resilience is not a trampoline, where you’re down one moment and up the next. It’s more like climbing a mountain without a trail map.Being resilient does not mean that people don’t experience stress, emotional upheaval, and suffering. Some people equate resilience with mental toughness only, but demonstrating resilience also includes working through emotional pain and suffering.

There is a psychological model of resilience:

The 7 Cs resilience model- was developed by pediatrician Ken Ginsberg, MD, to help children and adolescents build resilience.

Learning competence,

 confidence,

 connection,

 character,

contribution,

coping, and

control

 is how Ginsberg says we can build inner strength and utilize outside resources — regardless of age.

ACK:MULTIPLE .INCLUDING MODEST INPUTS FROM SELF

A PERSPECTIVE ON MISFORTUNE.

 

I hear a lot of why me's and complaints about the global pandemic sweeping the world.

Imagine if you were born in the year 1900. On your 14th birthday, World War I starts, and ends on your 18th birthday. 22 million people perish in that war. Later in the year, a Spanish Flu epidemic hits the planet and runs until your 20th birthday. 50 million people die from it in those two years. On your 29th birthday, the Great Depression begins. Unemployment hits 25%, the World GDP drops 27%. That runs until you are 33. The country nearly collapses along with the world economy. When you turn 39, World War II starts. On your 41st birthday, the United States is fully pulled into WWII. Between your 39th and 45th birthday, 75 million people perish in the war. At 50, the Korean War starts. 5 million perish. At 55 the Vietnam War begins and doesn’t end for 20 years. 4 million people perish in that conflict. On your 62nd birthday you have the Cuban Missile Crisis, a tipping point in the Cold War. When you turn 75, the Vietnam War finally ends.There are many who survived through everything listed above.

And what happened in between?

Donald Bradman happened to cricket .India became independent.They win 8 gold medals consecutively in Olympic hockey,one in Berlin before Adolf Hitler.Talking movies are born.So is television.Airplanes happen.So does Charlie Chaplin.Medical inventions change life forever.Beatles rock the planet.Man goes to moon.And on and on and on.Life rocked and thrived inspire of tragedies.

Life is what happens in between your plans.And perspective is what it teaches us.
Tragedies are in the gene code of the world.
Have perspective.

 

 

:Modified from Anonymous